Let us go through a very special case. A case which will help us understand deeper realities of life.

This is about a brilliant girl who completed her PG in law and practiced for about a year before getting married to a Banker. They loved and cared for each other. Though they came from middle class background, they were much better off than many others of their age, as her husband was doing very well professionally and was progressing rapidly in his career.  After approximately 6 months of marriage, the husband felt his beloved was burdened with avoidable stress of her professional and household work. He was sure, they could do well without her earning.

The girl wasn’t very ambitious or career-oriented and felt comfortable with the proposal. Soon she gave her career up and focused on her life at home. They made a nuclear family and lived happily enjoying each other’s undivided attention. The girl started enjoying her time waiting for her husband to come back every evening. She loved cooking for him and pampered her with all her affection. The husband too dotted on his sweetheart. After few years they were blessed with a baby boy… their family life seemed to be rocking. She was so happy…it felt as if they were the blessed souls and God had bestowed upon them all the happiness in the world. They celebrated life every day.

When their son was approximately 4 – 5 years old, they booked their new house. By this time, he had climbed the career ladder quite well. His salary and the housing loan facility that he enjoyed from the bank made payment of EMIs quite easy.

After the builder handed over the house to them, they performed Housewarming pooja. Nice people that they were, the function was attended by all near and dear ones who blessed the happy family from heart. It was all so satisfying. They both thanked the God for providing them a wonderful partner and abundance of love, wealth, and happiness.

He had to travel to Pune on the same evening of the housewarming for an important meeting next day. After saying bye to her and hugging his son he left in his car a for Pune.

He was about halfway to Pune, when suddenly a vehicle came flying from across the divider. There was no time to think, no place to escape. The collision was huge. It smashed his car completely. It wasn’t easy for him to leave the car. But somehow, he managed to get out and lost consciousness.

By God’s grace, some people rushed him to the hospital.  Before leaving, he had said that he will be on certain calls and would call her only after reaching Pune. When four hours passed without a call from him, the wife tried calling him, but found him to be out of reach.

Finally, a call came from the hospital informing her about the accident. The wife along with child rushed immediately to the hospital. When she met the doctors, her world fell apart. The doctors told her that he had sustained multiple injuries, had slipped into comma and chances of his Survival were bleak. The Doctors and medical team though did miraculous work.

After about 15 days in Critical Care Unit and another two months of therapy he was discharged from hospital. He was absolutely crippled. Not only was he unable to walk but he could not even move any of his own limbs. He could hardly communicate. The doctors told her that this was the reality that she perhaps had to face for rest of his life. They said “your husband may probably be bed ridden for rest of his life and if you are able to take care of him with serious rehabilitation program/physiotherapy etc.. then perhaps he may be able to attend to his normal daily routine. But beyond that nothing seems to be possible at this moment”.

The young lady was absolutely shattered. Overnight her picture-perfect life had turned on its head. The friends and relatives who had initially come to her aid, had to finally depart one by one. In a short while she found herself alone, with two souls completely dependent on her. Her son had to mature overnight as his father was even more dependent on his mother. It was all so saddening.

One man around whom she built all her fantasies and dreams, one man to whom she always rushed for help, advise and sharing, was lying there all broken.

She knew one thing for sure, that had the characters in this sad story been switched, if it was, she in bed and her husband caring for her, he would have taken care of her with complete devotion.

She tried her best to give herself to both of them. But felt she always fell short. If she gave time and energy to her husband, the son seemed uncared for. If she spent time with her son, something related to the husband was left out.

In a short time, she was physically and emotionally drained. This was followed by an attack of serious depression. Someone who couldn’t see the torture she was going through, guided her to me.

To say that what she shared with me was emotionally draining would be an understatement. In spite of the fact, that I have witnessed many sad life stories, I had a hard time concealing my tears.

As she finished sharing the sad part of her life with me, I earnestly requested her to promise herself something. I told to her “Promise to yourself that you are not going to leave this man ever. You are going to take care of him because you know that he is a divine soul, and he looked after you very well during his good days. Please promise yourself, that you will do everything in your ability to make yourself stronger so that you can take care of him”.

The trauma this lady had gone through was unimaginable. Many of her friends and relatives did not turn up to help her. Some people also tried taking undue advantage of her situation. I assured her of my unstinted support in creating and living a better vision of her life.

She had following strong questions in her mind:

1. Can she manage her activities of life while getting out of her own mental trauma through healing and capacity building?
2. Will it really help her overcome the pain?
3. Will it give her the strength she is looking for to deal with her current challenges?
4. Will she be able to survive and grow?
5. Will it help her in managing her 2 dependent loved ones effectively?
6. Can she ever create an independent life for herself and her family.

She took a pledge to follow my guidance for 6 months, and went through Deep Healing and Capacity Building. It was far from easy for her. It was challenging for her to deal with realities on one side and believe in the vision of a better life on the other side. She had to fully heal and also stand on her own feet. Systematically she went through inner healing and capacity building and thanks to all forces, the cosmic energy, God and my Gurus, she came out victorious.

I can tell you very proudly that today she is back practicing again in the court and is doing very well. She is not only able to take care of her financial needs but is also emotionally stronger. Her confidence and self-esteem has grown manifold. Through vigorous rehabilitation process her husband is now able to take care of his natural needs. Besides tending to him, this lady is also helping many other people. She speaks a healer’s language more than a lawyer’s language. Since she has gone through a complete cycle of experiencing limitless happiness, sudden falling of her world apart and then rising through the ashes, she knows and understands what healing means in every sense. From an emotional wreck, she has turned into a beacon of inspiration.

Counselling, coaching, mentoring and capacity building is essential not only for those facing emotional breakdown but also for those who want to live life to its fullest. Anyone can passionately learn and become a mentor, a guide because in this world millions of people are suffering. You can be one of those who would be able to heal people 100% and help people know their own strength. Learning the art of healing and capacity building helps one to lead an empowered life while going through the ups and downs of life.